Your entitlement is so loud, it’s deafening

Kia ora, welcome to Nurtured with Naketa.

Every two weeks, I jump on here — in your email, in the blog, on our website — to share with you the quote that resonated most with my social media community, namely Instagram and Facebook.

So this post popped off this week, particularly because I was calling out some of our behaviours.

Initially I said, “This post might offend you,” and soon after I said that, I shared:

Your entitlement is so loud, it’s deafening.

And look, I didn’t come on trying to provoke anybody. I didn’t come on trying to whakaiti or put down anybody.

But it just was a week where we have lost significant leaders in Aotearoa. And over the last couple of weeks, Aotearoa, but te ao Māori as well, has lost some esteemed leaders.

And it got me thinking about how privileged we are, and sometimes taking a beat to think about, actually, what am I grateful for?

We’re just so busy hustling, and doing more, and being more, and turning up, and doing all the things.

And the entitlement of that is in that we think we have another day.

And so I was inviting us — actually, all of us, myself included — to take a beat and think about, what am I grateful for?

To live in the moment and think, I’m grateful for.

And I guess the context for this has always been that my husband and I have come from humble beginnings. We both grew up in South Auckland, Ōtara and Māngere, and have been thankful for all of our experiences.

We’ve never taken any of them for granted.

And so I wanted to post and share with us all the opportunity to take a beat, stop for a minute, and think, what am I grateful for?

It’s not uncommon for me to say to my husband, most winter nights:

I’m just so grateful I can have a hot shower anytime I want to.

I’m just so grateful I woke up today.

I’m grateful for you.

I’m grateful for our time together and our whānau.

I’m grateful for the mahi, the way I get to serve people, the way I get to show up for people and love what I do.

I love my mahi.

I’m grateful for that.

And so today, I just want to invite you to do the same.

Take a moment to thank yourself for where you are, to appreciate what we have, and also to be grateful for where we are, where we’re going, and what we get to do in this life.

So, it’s a short but sweet kōrero.

As you know, I come online, I just riff it, I share what I share.

In the age of AI, I just like to show up and be real and raw with you.

That’s it for today.

Nurtured with Naketa.