When You’re Good With You: The Heart of Authentic Leadership

Mauri ora e te whānau

Nau mai, haere mai ki tēnei karere, pānui rānei.

This week I just want to acknowledge those of you who gave me feedback. There were four of you, and I just want to acknowledge your contribution to my growth.

The first was my dad. He reads every email, watches every video, and then gave some feedback. He pops over every week, so he could easily grab one of these books off my shelf. So I’m going to be giving two books away:

• A brand new copy to Liz. Thank you, Liz, for your feedback.
  
  
• And another copy to Shirlz. Shirlz you are going to get my copy that has my notes in it, because I have two of those.

And then the other person didn’t leave their name, so I just want to mihi to you all for giving me feedback.

it’s not too late to give some feedback, you won’t win a prize, but you can koha the gift of acknowledging what difference I make.

So this week I wanted to talk about:

“When you’re good with you, you’re good for others”

I’ve had a hive of activity, probably run about four different wānanga, five different coaching sessions, two guest speaking opportunities, and a comment that somebody made, that I put on my socials was,

“I just loved your main character energy.”

And at the time, often when you finish a big wānanga, people want to come and tell you how it impacted them or give you some feedback, or say thank you. So there were about five people waiting when I got the comment. 

“I just loved your main character energy.”

And the beautiful Jo went and translated that for me. It’s a contemporary comment apparently, so she translated it so I could understand. 

But the guts of it, or the ngako (essence) of it was my authenticity

The way I show up in the world is I’m just being me.

And I can’t tell you how much of a beautiful comment that was. That’s something I’m working on, or I’m gifting to the world is: 

Be you, be tūturu, be you, be authentic.

And what that requires, though, is for you to really look at what are your values, what are your dreams, your aspirations, what gives you confidence, what gives you credibility, and what difference do you want to make in the world?

And so it’s a beautiful piece of koha, a beautiful gift, for me to be seen in that way — to be seen in the world.

And the wānanga I was running at the time was actually on values. And so, I have shared this link a number of times, but I want you to have a look at it again. If you haven’t seen my video on identifying your values in an unconventional way, please pop down and have a go.

And not just have a go for yourself — revisit it if you’ve done it before — but also in your own whānau, with your tamariki, with your partner or significant other, with your parents, with your cousins. Having a look and having the kōrero about your values.

And I have, hand on heart, had so much experience around the world, internationally and globally, 

where if you’re good with you, you’re good for others.

So being good with you means understanding who you are, how you want to be seen in the world, consistently, no matter where you are, and aligning yourself with your values.

When you’re good with you, you’re good for others.

That’s all I’ve got for this week. Have a wonderful two weeks before I see you again.